Length: 10-15 mins

Practice forming good questions.

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  • What questions, or types of questions, do you most often ask your friends? 

  • What topics do you usually ask about?

Part of being a good listener is asking good questions. It can be easy to fall into patterns of conversation where we ask the “expected” questions and leave it at that, but good listeners don't just ask more questions; they ask better questions. Good questions are curious, open-ended, and invite people to share stories, thoughts, and experiences. They communicate, "I'm interested in knowing you," and they often lead to deeper conversations and stronger relationships.

Read the following examples of interesting questions:

  • What are you most excited about right now in your life?

  • What’s the best thing that happened to you this week so far?

  • What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?

  • What’s something amazing that you rarely tell people because you don’t want to brag?

  • Who stands out as having had a major influence in your life?

  • What’s the greatest lesson you feel you’ve learned thus far in life?

  • When was the last time you tried something new?

  • Which activities make you lose track of time?

  • What three words would you use to describe the last three months of your life?

  • If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

  • What are your top three values in life?

  • Have you ever had something you would call a “life-changing experience”? What was it?


Discussion Questions

  • How would you feel if one of your friends asked you a question like these? Why?

  • What do these questions have in common? What do you notice about them?

    • What can we learn from this?

  • What makes a question a “good question”?

  • How can you practice asking good questions this week?



Sources of Questions Above